"You both are reacting to trauma that's outside of your control. It's not like you do anything on purpose." Jesper shrugs. He on the other hand absolutely does. And one could argue that addiction is difficult to stop as well, but as he's proven, he can do it with enough incentive and with using his Grisha gifts instead of denying them. They're all working on what messes they've been living with.

Jesper would very much like to be doing the kissing that makes him pass out, but at this point he assumes only Inej is the one Kaz is talking about there. Which means he'll have to help out in other ways, which is fine. "That's why it's a build-up, Kaz. Hold hands. Cup faces. Brush fingers through hair. Get used to the little physical gestures of intimacy and then eventually move up. You've just never given yourself a chance to try."