You know when people hint at things that they want you to do, but don't really outright say it? [ Ie. A lot of what Hilda practices herself, even if she claims her methods are completely different. ] There was a lot of that.

[ She moves to pour Elrond more tea, offering up a different tea pot this time in case he wanted to try something different as she continues speaking. ]

And don't get me wrong, I understand why. It's not cheap to feed and clothe people, but being in the military isn't everyone's style.